7 Things I Wasn’t Expecting As A New Mom
- The “owies” of breastfeeding: When it comes to breastfeeding it seems there is a lot to overcome and manage. It’s such a special time of bonding for me and Caden that I absolutely love. However, I wasn’t expecting there to be so my “owies” as I’ll call them. At first, my nipples were so sore as I learned to breastfeed. I kept nipple cream on them for the first 1-2 weeks and they slowly began to heal. The let down of milk is another owie I wasn’t expecting. In those first few months it was this sensation of an intense tingling, and it kind of hurt, especially when my let down would happen before it was time for Caden to feed. Now, my owies come from Caden scratching, pinching and even leaving little hickey marks when he tries to latch too fast and misses the nipple. He’s even trying to reach for my face and nose now. For me, it’s all worth it. I love those precious 10-20 minutes together. I’m so thankful I’m able to do this for Caden.
- The amount of blowouts and laundry because of it: I knew there would be a lot of yukky moments, but I’m going to be honest, I wasn’t expecting THIS MANY. At least once a day I’m changing clothes and sheets thanks to the many blowouts. If we are just staying at home for the day, most of the time, I just only have a diaper on him because it wasn’t worth it to have so many dirty and stained clothes. Tip: have several sets of sheets for backup.
- Just how much love pours out from me: I knew I would love my little guy, but I didn’t realize just how much. It’s intense. It’s warm. It’s wanting to keep them healthy, safe and happy. Sometimes, I feel like my loves is like a light beam shining from my chest. It’s the best feeling ever.
- How quickly they change from week to week: They grow so fast. Each week you can see them growing and changing. It’s amazing to watch. It’s also emotional. You want them to stay a little baby, but you love watching them grow and learn. Take pictures, sit and cuddle, treasure the moments.
- Most things and people get pushed to the back burner: It’s not on purpose, but at first and maybe for a while, nothing else matter to you but your baby. It’s like you live in a little bubble with your family as you learn and adapt. There’s not a lot of down time so, many of the things that used to matter, don’t anymore. After time, you’ll enjoy getting out (and you’ll probably want to), and it’s healthy for you, but it’s also ok to take your time and enjoy that bubble.
- There’s no off switch: When the mama bear instincts kick in, they are just on at all times. 24/7 I’m thinking about my son. Does he feel safe, does he know I love him, is he hungry, is he full after he eats, is he sleepy, is he healthy, am I doing enough for him, am I doing this right….and like the hundreds of questions you will think and ask yourself throughout the day. There’s no off switch for them. It’s exhausting. You just want the best for your baby.
- The short amount of moments you have with your husband are more special than they used to be: When Caden goes down for bed, I know I have about 3 hours with my husband before we go to sleep. Jacob works all day, and then when he gets home I’m cooking dinner, we trade off playing with Caden and then night routine for Caden. It’s a long day. The few hours we have to just be with each other are so much more special, and it’s even better because you put forth a conscious effort since you know it’s just a short amount of time. Make quality time with your partner, even if it’s just those few hours after baby goes down for bed.
Just for kicks, Jacob would like to add a number 8-The amount of time you just want to be with them.: “I miss him when I’m at work. I think about him and I can’t wait to be home with him after work. He’s the first thing I go to when I walk through the door. I just love to chill and hangout with him. ” – Jacob