It’s that wonderful time again! Today on the “Wedding Wednesday” segment it’s all about the men in the bridal party. Just as I carefully thought and selected my bridesmaids, Jacob took the time to carefully select his groomsmen. I have to say that he had a great bunch of guys. All of them have become great friends of mine. All of the guys Jacob chose have impacted his life in an awesome way. These guys are more like brothers to him. In fact, one of them is actually his brother & the other is his brother-in-law!
Take a look at these awesome men who were apart of our wedding:
Jacob & I have great friends. We spend a lot of time with them. About 2-3 times a week we are with other people. Gym, projects, hangouts, fishing, events & concerts etc… The thing is, sometimes we can get wrapped up in spending so much time with other people that we forget that we need to nurture our own relationship ( and I am guilty of this). The issues we face will not be resolved by hanging out with our friends. Though we may seek advice from those who are close to us, if we do not nurture our husband/wife relationship than we will have nothing. I have thus come up with a revised quote “Keep your friends close but your spouse closer”.
We need our friends. We need the fulfillment of being with other people, but whats most important in a relationship is what we come home to. What is your relationship like behind closed doors when no one is around? Are you communicating? Are you laughing & loving together? Are you working through your battles as a couple ? The relationship at home when no one else is looking, the relationship that isn’t forced all over Facebook, that it the most important relationship. That is the relationship, the husband/wife relationship, that matters most.
Here is a tip: Spend more time with your spouse than you do with your friends. Your spouse should be your closest friend. Jacob is my partner in crime! Issues can’t be solved if we aren’t together working through them.